Alyjah Jade Decker

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My pumpkin carving literally NEVER looks good 🤦🏼‍♀️ I’m thinking next year I’ll just paint them, and maybe then I won’t feel as guilty about spending so much money just to destroy a pumpkin with a plastic serrated knife 🎃 But hey, it’s tradition, right? I love anything that feels like it makes a season special. I even picked a couple tiny pumpkins to make a pie tomorrow! 🍂🥧 I’m in fall-mode, but I DID buy a Christmas gnome at HomeGoods day at a time. How did you spend your Sunday?
We’re in Boston for the next several days for some relaxation, good food, visits with my best friends, and seeing Salem! OF COURSE, it’s pouring outside and making it near impossible to get a good photo, the one time I remember to bring the camera with me on a trip 🤦🏼‍♀️Anyone have recommendations for fun things to do in Boston and Salem?! 🎃
Today FINALLY feels like fall (I mean, I know it’s technically only been fall for one week today, but I always expect cool temps and pretty leaves September 1st on the dot 😂). As much as I love summer, I’m not gonna lie, I do NOT do well in the heat. On top of that, we live in a two story loft, where the heat rises like flames from hell, and I’m definitely sick of having a loud fan in my ear next to the bed every night 🤷🏼‍♀️ Bring on the light sweaters, refreshing (but not TOO cold) chill, and pumpkin everything. By the way, if you haven’t tried the Maple Harvest Hot Chocolate from @wawa, do it! If you don’t live near a Wawa, then...move. 🍂 PS. A photo I took for my business just got published in People magazine, and I’m pretty psyched about it.
It has been one month since I’ve posted. One month since I’ve posed for a photo worthy of permanently sharing with both friends and strangers on the internet. One month since I’ve thought about follower count and algorithms and lack of ‘likes’. I’ve been so busy living, and the funny thing about life, is that when you’re really in the moment, you usually forget to take a photo. So I’ve been saving moments to my memory instead of my camera roll. 🤷🏼‍♀️ On the other hand, I have been BUSY. I have been putting 100% of my time, energy, heart, and soul into Kevin and my photography business and it is truly a 24/7 job. I answer emails the second I receive them, even if it’s 2am or we’re out to dinner, I go above and beyond the call of duty to show clients commitment and appreciation and sometimes, after all the work, they’ll cancel on me. I run our website, social media, set meetings, edit photos, handpick styling props, track and record is the most exhausting and rewarding thing I’ve ever done. But it’s definitely caused me to abandon my OWN presence, making other (beautiful, wonderful) women the center of my attention, instead of setting aside a little bit of time to feel good about just myself. So, I’m going to try my very best to set aside that time for selfies and outfit photos, even if it sounds silly. I didn’t spend years creating a little community on here of nearly 13,000 people (WOW 😳) to abandon it all. I said in conversation recently, I’ve become the girl in movies whose work takes over her life and everything/everyone else is on the back burner. I don’t wanna be that girl, so here I am!
It’s been a while since I posted a good ole’ fashioned selfie. New hair seems like a good enough reason to ✌🏻
Livin’ my daydream on the daily ✌🏻
When this photo was taken, I had a solid sweat-mustache forming, was 99% sure I was going to faint from heat exhaustion, and my knees were covered in dirt from kneeling in front of the lavender bush 🤷🏼‍♀️ Kevin and I went to a farm we’ve previously Sunflower-picked at to pick raspberries and lavender, because we’re trying to pack in as many summer activities as we can before we blink and it’s over ☀️ I love summer, but simultaneously hate it because the heat is my greatest enemy, but needless to say, I still wish every summer could last so, so much longer. Today we have an engagement session with an awesome couple for our photography business (had another one last night as well!). I stayed up so late editing that I slept until 1pm today, which I don’t think I’ve done since I was 18 years old 😂 What’s your favorite summer activity? I can definitely use some inspiration for summer date days!!
I think my favorite part of social media is the feeling of having ‘friends’ from all over the world, with wildly different personalities and styles and stories. Growing up, I was always a one-or-two-friend’s type of girl, which isn’t exactly a testament of me not liking the idea of a large group of friends, but rather, never finding a group I fit into. When I was in high school, tumblr was really taking off, and I spent my days blogging and answering ‘asks’, and loved this sense of community I was finally a part of. Once Instagram started, a lot of those people from tumblr moved onto here and continued those relationships, even if some of them go as far as just keeping up with each other’s lives through a ‘like’ button and occasional comment. At the same time, I feel like these internet friendships have become more and more shallow, like we only show others what’s on the surface and aesthetically pleasing, like we never want to talk about anything real. I’d love to get back to those roots where we’re all building friendships through social media; a place where we originally felt like we could go to be ourselves. That being said, what’s bothering you this week? What’s something amazing that’s happened? What is on your mind and in your heart, because I would genuinely love to know 💗
I’ve been thinking a lot today about how we allow moments and experiences in our lives to be defining points of who we are as people. Honestly, it’s a little silly - isn’t it? Maybe we were bullied as kids or didn’t fit in, maybe we were the most popular kid in school (does anyone actually know that person though, because I sure don’t); either way, we let those little bits and pieces of childhood influence who we are as adults. Maybe we even base our whole confidence off of those parts of what it was like growing up. You know what? We need to stop. We need to let who we are be the only thing that defines who we are. The things we love, the passions that light fire beneath us, the little smiles and accomplishments and memories that make us so happy that we feel warm. We can’t act out of fear or trauma or in effort to fill a void we’ve let others convince us is even there. I think we should just enjoy this life we’re given, and everything will be so, so much easier.
When I was little, I was OBSESSED with the movie Father of the Bride - my brother and I must have watched it a dozen times (this is what we did with basically every movie on HBO on Demand, God only knows how many times we’ve seen Selena lol). During my engagement party, and the weeks leading up to it, I was definitely getting some Father of the Bride feels! My dad did SO much yard work, you’d have thought he was filming for an HGTV special, we all scurried around trying to make everything look perfect, even when balloons popped and aux chords weren’t quite long enough. Having a big party and doing most of the work yourself is A LOT of work, but after you’ve had a few mini-meltdowns and get in the swing enjoying it all, everything is so worth it. I’ve definitely been spamming with photos from the day, but I’m just still on cloud 9! ☁️ Also, @beauty_by_aliciak made all of my hair dreams come true for the day (she’s also responsible for my color!) 💁🏼‍♀️ If you’re in the Central Jersey/Jersey Shore area and need a new stylist, she is located at Aurelio Salon in Toms River!!
The best part of our party was probably the success of my dessert table 😂 Everyone close to me knows I love to bake and that everything I make always tastes good, but never LOOKS good 🤷🏼‍♀️ I’ve definitely cracked the I-can’t-ice-anything code with naked cakes and I’m so proud of myself, because it was all SO PRETTY 😍 @priscillacornwell scattered the leftover flowers all over the table and donuts, and that was the cherry on top of it all 🎂
We finally had our engagement party yesterday!! After months of planning, a dozen trips to Michael’s, hours of baking, and possibly a small foot fracture from dropping a pile of chairs on myself (I’ll deal with that later 😂) - it FINALLY happened! I can’t believe the day is over already, but it couldn’t have gone better, and even though I probably spent a total of 5 minutes with my actual fiancé, we all had an absolute blast, and I’m so thankful. I have so many photos to share, but I’ll probably space them out a little! I have to say, I couldn’t have had my dream party if it weren’t for our parents - my dad even went full blown HGTV on the house to make everything in the yard look totally perfect. The whole day was perfect, and now I’m fully prepared to sleep for a week 💗