Alyjah Jade Decker

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fiancée + dog momma living in NJ | songwriter & vocal coach | full of wonder and words | not cool at all
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When this photo was taken, I had a solid sweat-mustache forming, was 99% sure I was going to faint from heat exhaustion, and my knees were covered in dirt from kneeling in front of the lavender bush 🤷🏼‍♀️ Kevin and I went to a farm we’ve previously Sunflower-picked at to pick raspberries and lavender, because we’re trying to pack in as many summer activities as we can before we blink and it’s over ☀️ I love summer, but simultaneously hate it because the heat is my greatest enemy, but needless to say, I still wish every summer could last so, so much longer. Today we have an engagement session with an awesome couple for our photography business (had another one last night as well!). I stayed up so late editing that I slept until 1pm today, which I don’t think I’ve done since I was 18 years old 😂 What’s your favorite summer activity? I can definitely use some inspiration for summer date days!!
I think my favorite part of social media is the feeling of having ‘friends’ from all over the world, with wildly different personalities and styles and stories. Growing up, I was always a one-or-two-friend’s type of girl, which isn’t exactly a testament of me not liking the idea of a large group of friends, but rather, never finding a group I fit into. When I was in high school, tumblr was really taking off, and I spent my days blogging and answering ‘asks’, and loved this sense of community I was finally a part of. Once Instagram started, a lot of those people from tumblr moved onto here and continued those relationships, even if some of them go as far as just keeping up with each other’s lives through a ‘like’ button and occasional comment. At the same time, I feel like these internet friendships have become more and more shallow, like we only show others what’s on the surface and aesthetically pleasing, like we never want to talk about anything real. I’d love to get back to those roots where we’re all building friendships through social media; a place where we originally felt like we could go to be ourselves. That being said, what’s bothering you this week? What’s something amazing that’s happened? What is on your mind and in your heart, because I would genuinely love to know 💗
I’ve been thinking a lot today about how we allow moments and experiences in our lives to be defining points of who we are as people. Honestly, it’s a little silly - isn’t it? Maybe we were bullied as kids or didn’t fit in, maybe we were the most popular kid in school (does anyone actually know that person though, because I sure don’t); either way, we let those little bits and pieces of childhood influence who we are as adults. Maybe we even base our whole confidence off of those parts of what it was like growing up. You know what? We need to stop. We need to let who we are be the only thing that defines who we are. The things we love, the passions that light fire beneath us, the little smiles and accomplishments and memories that make us so happy that we feel warm. We can’t act out of fear or trauma or in effort to fill a void we’ve let others convince us is even there. I think we should just enjoy this life we’re given, and everything will be so, so much easier.
When I was little, I was OBSESSED with the movie Father of the Bride - my brother and I must have watched it a dozen times (this is what we did with basically every movie on HBO on Demand, God only knows how many times we’ve seen Selena lol). During my engagement party, and the weeks leading up to it, I was definitely getting some Father of the Bride feels! My dad did SO much yard work, you’d have thought he was filming for an HGTV special, we all scurried around trying to make everything look perfect, even when balloons popped and aux chords weren’t quite long enough. Having a big party and doing most of the work yourself is A LOT of work, but after you’ve had a few mini-meltdowns and get in the swing enjoying it all, everything is so worth it. I’ve definitely been spamming with photos from the day, but I’m just still on cloud 9! ☁️ Also, @beauty_by_aliciak made all of my hair dreams come true for the day (she’s also responsible for my color!) 💁🏼‍♀️ If you’re in the Central Jersey/Jersey Shore area and need a new stylist, she is located at Aurelio Salon in Toms River!!
The best part of our party was probably the success of my dessert table 😂 Everyone close to me knows I love to bake and that everything I make always tastes good, but never LOOKS good 🤷🏼‍♀️ I’ve definitely cracked the I-can’t-ice-anything code with naked cakes and I’m so proud of myself, because it was all SO PRETTY 😍 @priscillacornwell scattered the leftover flowers all over the table and donuts, and that was the cherry on top of it all 🎂
We finally had our engagement party yesterday!! After months of planning, a dozen trips to Michael’s, hours of baking, and possibly a small foot fracture from dropping a pile of chairs on myself (I’ll deal with that later 😂) - it FINALLY happened! I can’t believe the day is over already, but it couldn’t have gone better, and even though I probably spent a total of 5 minutes with my actual fiancé, we all had an absolute blast, and I’m so thankful. I have so many photos to share, but I’ll probably space them out a little! I have to say, I couldn’t have had my dream party if it weren’t for our parents - my dad even went full blown HGTV on the house to make everything in the yard look totally perfect. The whole day was perfect, and now I’m fully prepared to sleep for a week 💗
Yesterday Kevin and I went to one of our favorite little beach towns to get some fresh air and lobster rolls, and I came across the most gorgeous dream catchers in a little boutique. I was absolutely mesmerized by every piece hanging throughout the shop - so delicate and beautiful. Choosing which one I wanted to take home was one of the hardest choices I could have to make 😂 When the boutique’s owner saw me lusting after them, she told me she picked them up that morning at a craft market down the road and couldn’t believe she was already selling one so quickly. She definitely made the right investment! I strongly suggest everyone check out @tripsyshop to see some of these incredible, hand-crafted pieces. There is just something so special about them that makes my soul feel at such peace, and I hope to fill our home with more of them ASAP! (There was this stunning sage/seafoam shade and a pinkish mauve I was lusting after as well, and the wood designs vary in such creatively stunning ways!) 😍 So happy to have come across this shop in the little boutique we stepped into for air conditioning!
I’ve been totally slacking on instagram, I guess real life has been getting the most of me. I wanted to give a little life update, and hopefully I’ll get my grid here in order.
 I started writing again! I don’t mean songs, because I’ve obviously never stopped doing that. But I mean fiction. Most of you don’t know, but my mom is an author and that inspired me to often write stories growing up. In high school, I wrote and edited an entire manuscript without backing it up, and my computer crashed making me lose everything. Since then, I’ve never been able to commit to writing a new book. Until now, at least! I’m 70 pages in and very excited, and hopeful to see where it goes and what becomes of it, if anything. -
On another note, I’ve been immersing myself in our photography business and the payback has been absolutely wonderful. I’m so proud of the business I’ve created and the success it’s drawing in. One of the educators I follow says, ‘success is not for the chosen few’, and I’ve decided to make that my motto, and it’s definitely working! I’ve always believed in the law of attraction and that if you want something, all you have to do is get it. -
Lastly, our engagement party is just a few weeks away and I’m so excited while simultaneously overwhelmed with fear that it’ll be rained out because the weather here in NJ has been nothing but rain lately, especially on the weekends. But I’m thinking positive!
This selfie from my birthday totally throws off the satisfaction my grid was giving me but I really liked it 😂
Of course the pretty macaron’s I ask for turn out to be birthday cake flavored 😂🤷🏼‍♀️ Honestly, I woke up with a bad case of the birthday blues and I couldn’t possibly tell you why. Maybe it’s because 23 isn’t the most exciting age, maybe because I feel like adulthood is getting way too real, or maybe I was just missing a little magic. I ate oysters, I saw a really funny comedian, I had ice cream cake for breakfast (I’m still somehow finding stains of blue icing on myself and I don’t even know how or why). It has been a good day, and it’s been a good birthday. Thank you all for the birthday wishes 🌷 I hope this is a special year for me!
I am the birthday girl! 🎂 I just ate the most amazing birthday cake macaroons and checked into my hotel! We’re going to play some slots (hopefully win 😉), eat a lot of seafood, and go to a comedy show. My birthday blues are gone and I’m feeling good 🌷
My whole feed is the tulip farm last week 🤷🏼‍♀️ Tomorrow is my birthday, and while I’m usually super hyped up on birthdays, this year feels different! I think 23 must be the age where you officially want to stop aging. Kevin and I have a room booked in Atlantic City to celebrate with seafood and games, and hopefully I’ll be feeling a little more festive when tomorrow comes!