Ken Howard, LCSW

Ken Howard, LCSW Follow

LGBTQ therapist/coach. Gay men’s specialist. Founder, GayTherapyLA.com, 27 years experience.
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Depression is the most common challenge I see in the mental health of gay men I’ve seen in my office for 27 years. It can be subtle, or severe.  You’re not alone, and many kinds of treatment options can work.  Read my article on gay men and depression for an overview. 
#lgbtmentalhealth #gaydepressed #gaydepression #gayboyproblems #therapy #gaytherapyla #instagay #gaymen #gaytwink #gaydaddy
I work with many clients on coming to terms with their sexuality, sexual identity, and shedding shame and guilt that comes from many illegitimate sources. I offer an alternative to the “sex addiction” commercial, moralistic charlatanism we see so often today (although it’s diminishing fast). You have the ultimate right to control what happens to your body, with another consenting adult, without guilt or shame. 
#gaysex #gaysexuality #gaymensex #sexualselfempowerment #sexaddictionmyth #metoo #gaydaddy #gayboy #polyamory #kinkawareness #sextherapy
Reclaim your time.  Your energy.  Your thoughts.  Your feelings.  Your goals.  Your pastimes.  Your home.  Your truly nurturing relationships.  Your freedom from others’ narcissism.  Your community.  Your sense of self.  Your dreams.  Your style.  Your body.  Your spirit. Your life. 
#gay #gaymen #gayboy #gaydaddy #narcissisticabuse #dramaqueen #dignity #autonomy #nogaslighting #gaslightingawareness #feministtherapyla #nobigotry #lgbtmentalhealth #gaydignity #relationshipquotes
Hey, we feel what we feel. Sometimes we defend a friend whom no one else likes. Sometimes we want to stay home, when everyone else wants to be out. Sometimes we don’t like something other people do. Part of being an authentic person is owning our feelings and recognizing that it’s OK to disagree when necessary. That makes us authentic and have the strength of our convictions. That contributes to a strong sense of self. We’re not always going to agree, but each of us has a right to feel the things we feel, and think the things we think. Diversity is living among others who are different from any number of reasons. Live and let live.

#diversity #gaymen #gaytherapyla #gaypolitics #authenticity #differentdrum #therapy #coaching
I do a lot of career coaching for gay men, both young guys just starting out, and also executive coaching for leaders all over the country.  No matter your situation, there are always people that you can seek out whom you admire that you can learn from. Ask for informational interviews or do networking lunches to learn how people you admire got where they are today. You’d be surprised how supportive and generous your mentors can be.

#gayprofessionals #gayexecutive #gaycoaching #gayexecutive #gayexecutivecoaching #gaycareer #gaytherapist
Had the best time today walking the neighborhoods of West Hollywood canvassing for my buddy, James Duke Mason, running for West Hollywood City Council on Tuesday, March 5th.  The voice of a new generation of leadership who really “gets it“ about West Hollywood’s legacy as an entertainment capital, historic preservation, and also moving forward for the future with innovative ideas for both new and old problems, free of undue influence, bias, or scandal. Great to meet the neighbors, too.  We are all lucky to live in a fabulous and unique city.  Duke will help keep it that way!

#cityofwesthollywood #jamesdukemason #westhollywood #westhollywoodnightlife #westhollywoodrealestate #gaywesthollywood #travelswithmrsmason #gaypolitics #historicpreservation #youngpoliticians #youngpolitician #gaybuddy
I always tell my clients, you have to take your kicks where you can get ‘em. Beautiful morning after a really tough arm workout to have the top down on my way to change and get to the office. I like the balance of swelling my arms in the morning, and then shrinking some heads in the afternoon LOL!

#gay #gaydaddy #gayboy #convertible #laweather #gaytherapist #gaybodybuilder #gaybodybuilders #bodygay #bmwz4 #instagay #therapist
My new podcast show of GayTherapyLA is coming soon!  Comment or DM me with your suggestions for episode topics on the things you want help with or to lean more about!

#podcast #gaypodcast #gaypodcaster #gaypodcasters #instagay #gaymen #mengay #gaytwink #gaydaddy #gaypodcasts #gayadvice #gaytherapist #gaytherapyla #psychotherapist #therapypodcast #gaycoach #gaycoaching #gaybodybuilder #gayfitness #gayprofessional
Obsessive-compulsive disorder, or OCD, is something people make jokes about, but it’s a real disorder. Sometimes people have the full OCD diagnosis, and sometimes they have a less severe version, the obsessive-compulsive personality disorder. Joking aside, these symptoms of obsessions or compulsive behaviors can interfere with daily life. Fortunately, cognitive behavioral therapy, and occasionally medication, can help symptoms. For gay men, there can be additional pressures, and it has been said that OCD is more prevalent in gay men, perhaps because of sexual guilt from society that comes from systemic oppression. Symptom relief is possible, and is actually relatively quick work in therapy. Reach out for help to bring relief for this annoying type of anxiety.

#ocdproblems #ocdawareness #gayproblems #gayproblem #instagay #gayboy #gaydaddy #therapy #gaytherapist #gaytherapyla #gayocd #gayanxiety #obsessivecompulsivedisorder #gayobsession #gaymen
Anger management is a popular term, but in therapy, it can be misleading. Anger can be a symptom of depression, in the form of irritability, or it can be a frustration with systemic LGBT discrimination, or it can be a symptom in the aftermath of abuse, either as a child, or as an adult, such as with workplace bullying, which I’ve helped a lot of clients with. The good news is that anger as a symptom can be managed relatively easily with sessions in cognitive behavioral therapy. Managing anger is also a gateway toward exploring bigger themes that will help you achieve a better quality of life, especially in relationships.  Consider investing in CBT for anger management and see how it might support other life goals you have this year.

#gay #instagay #gayintherapy #therapist #gayprofessional #gayprofessionals #angermanagement #angrygay #angrygays #angerhelp #gaydepression #gayanxiety #gaydaddy #gayparents
Everybody who knows me knows that I really worship my icons and inspirations. One of these of all time is Miss Betty Lynn Buckley.  I have all her albums and seen her in concert as much as possible, and certainly in musicals.  Her performance as Norma Desmond in “Sunset Boulevard” left not a dry eye in the house when I saw it on Broadway.  Last night she added to the “world of wonderful things” via her performance as Dolly Gallagher Levi (Vandergelder) in the “Hello, Dolly!” revival national tour.  Only she could take an iconic role and make it fresh like we’ve never seen it before.  She had an amazingly adorable colleague in Nic Rouleau, too, as “Cornelius”. I don’t know what’s next for @blbuckley, but I’ll be there to see it, cuz it’s nice to have her on stage, back where she belongs... ❤️😍🙏🏻 #musicals #bettybuckley #gayicons #pantagestheatre #hollywoodpantages #hellodollyontour #nicrouleau #jerryherman #broadwaymusicals #musicalsarelife
Blink and you’ll miss it. 
Yes, I admit I’m a total dork and love autograph shows.  Here meeting the fabulous Barbara Eden of “I Dream of Jeannie” fame.  So lovely and warm and looking fabulous.  Genies don’t age. ❤️ #thehollywoodshowla #barbaraeden #idreamofjeannie #genie #gayicons #gayfans #popculture #meetyourheroes #gayfanboy