Laura Tremaine

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🌈 Books. Family. Travel.
🎧 Host of @10ThingsToTellYou
🌴 Los Angeles
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Read this quote by @lmtankersley in @emilypfreeman’s new book The Next Right Thing in the chapter titled “Wear Better Pants.” Needed to share it immediately. 🏆 #10thingstotellyou #mynextrightthing
The @10ThingsToTellYou #podcast this week is about the people you tell your stuff to. The people you can trust. The ones who have loved you even when you said something sad or scary. Every week on the show I encourage you to TELL THINGS but who are you telling? Do you have a friend or a partner or a sister that you can talk to? Are you a good friend or partner or sister to those who have something to tell?⁣
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I’ve been lucky enough to have had some amazing friendships in my life. Some for the long haul, some just for a season. The importance of those relationships is that we took turns carrying one another through. ⁣
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Tag the person you tell your stuff to. Tell them that you’re grateful they listen, that they really SEE YOU. Tell your people thank you. ✨ ⁣
Monday mood. 🦍 (My mom made these heart sunglasses for our backyard #bobogorilla statue for Valentines Day and he’s been wearing them for two months. 😂❤️😎) #mondaymood
Been too long since I’ve taken myself out for a reading lunch. This one had to be quick, but I wanted to get through a little more of The Immortalists by Chloe Benjamin, which I’m really enjoying. Happy weekend, everyone! 📚 #10thingstotellyou
Yesterday I sat outside working for the first time in 7 months, since the day our home was robbed while I sat outside working. ⁣
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I felt fine. I wasn’t scared. Calmly I carried my computer and notebook and drink to the outdoor table on a sunny weekday. No one was home except me and the dog. I was aware that this was the first time I’d attempted these same circumstances since that Monday in September, but inwardly I was marveling at how brave I was being. ⁣
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I opened my laptop and started typing a few things. I took a sip of my drink. ⁣
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And then my hands started shaking so hard that I had to stop typing and sit on them. My mind stayed still but my body was reacting. The body knows things the mind isn’t ready to touch. ⁣
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The shaking subsided enough for me to move forward with my task. After a few minutes I got absorbed in what I was doing, and an hour went by. Then another half hour. ⁣
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It was time to go back inside. I did it. ✨⁣
Who did you expect to be? When you were younger looking into your future, who did you expect to become? ⁣
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Did you expect to live in your hometown? Have a certain career or certain number of kids? Did you expect to vote the same way as your parents, or believe that all the things that felt so true would stay that way forever? ⁣
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I’m asking Who Did You Expect To Be? on the @10ThingsToTellYou podcast this week. I expected to a wife and mom, live in an exciting city, and be creative. And still, none of those things have turned out exactly how I expected. ⁣
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Hope you’ll listen to the episode and that it will spark thoughts about your own path, and where you are now. 🎧 #10ThingsToTellYou ⁣
I wore my bulbous silk romper to therapy. The first session I’ve been to in awhile because our schedule has been crazy lately. ⁣
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When I was struggling for a few years, I went to therapy every week. My sweet spot is every other week, but when things are going especially well or there’s a lot going on, sometimes I drop to once a month or so. But I’ve learned the hard way that I can’t stop going altogether. I am a better person when I go. Therapy helps me untangle all my thought loops and the stories I tell myself about myself (and about others). All of my relationships are better because I started going to therapy five springs ago. ⁣
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My only therapy regret is that I didn’t start earlier. I waited until I was in pretty bad mental health shape. I cried all the time for no reason. I had thoughts I was really ashamed of, and bought into a lie that new motherhood just feels terrible like that and you should just grin and bear it. ⁣
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If I could go back, I would have started therapy when I was an anxious child, or a teenager having panic attacks, or a young person depressed after a bad breakup. Instead, I waited until I nearly 35, and falling apart. ⁣
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It’s much safer to learn to swim than to jump in and hope someone will save you with a life raft when you start to drown. This is your prompt to find a swim coach. I mean a therapist. ⁣
When @gorillaflicks first cast Iwan Rheon as Mick Mars in The Dirt, I freaked out. ⁣
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“Don’t you want to meet him?” Jeff asked.⁣
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“I’m too terrified!” I said, totally serious. ⁣
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I think Ramsey Bolton is the most evil character that’s ever been on television. But turns out Iwan is really nice. He doesn’t murder! I don’t think. ⁣
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Happy Game of Thrones Day. Go team Khaleesi! (Just kidding, I’m totally Team Cersei.) 🔥
She has a walkie talkie on her hip and three day old braids. This girl commands the kitchen every Sunday morning. 🥞#sundaypancakes
Just a few of the books I talk about in the latest episode of the @10thingstotellyou #podcast about the Best Books I’ve Read Lately. One of these novels I actually read last year, but it comes out in the US this week! One of these books I hated while I was reading it, but then I put it on a Best list. 😂 Not pictured: at least a half dozen other books mentioned that I read on my kindle. Hope you enjoy Episode 11 of #10thingstotellyou! 🎧 Now what’s the best thing YOU’VE read lately?
Brunch today with my gorgeous friend @lisawhelchel who in the middle of girlfriend chit chat secretly life-coached the hell out of me and also obliged a selfie in the middle of a trendy restaurant because this is LA and who cares? (No one looked twice 😂) Love you, my friend. Thank you for toasting with me to love, and happiness, and work, and the stars. ✨
#tbt to summer camp in Missouri, where I went for 4 weeks a year from ages 8 - 18. This is a photo of my friend Alli, the only person who was in my cabin all those years. When I met her at age 8, I was mesmerized. Alli was funny and good-naturedly rebellious, and she could disarm tension faster than anyone. She was the first person I ever knew who could fully take up a room, just be loud and happy and unashamed of what anyone else thought about it. My small, shy self was in awe, and I took home a little bit of Alli at the end of every summer. ⁣
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Alli and I both had our birthdays at camp every year. And since we were away from our families, we spent all of those birthdays TOGETHER. We were family to each other hundreds of miles away from home, for all of those milestones. Turning 10, 12, 16…I spent all of those days with Alli. ⁣
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This bright light unexpectedly left the world last week. I am deeply sad that she (and we) were robbed of her presence on earth. ⁣
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I haven't seen Alli since we were teenagers, but she is in all of my best summer stories. She is a part of me, forever. I wish I’d said that to her more clearly. We were connected via social media, but I always thought there’d be a chance to tell her in person. ⁣
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Alli, you will be missed. So many people loved you. ❤️⁣