Mary Massey

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• Life & Business Coach
• Nutrition Expert & Trainer 💪🏼
• Happy #momboss 👧🏽👦🏻
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Did you do the thing today?  You know... exercise?

I don’t think I need to tell you about the amazing benefits of weight training. If nothing else, do that, because women lose muscle mass faster after menopause.

And please don’t think to yourself that you “don’t have time to workout” because I’m pretty confident you can spare a few minutes a day.

If you can’t get to the gym, there’s plenty that you can do from home. This morning I told my class participants that they MUST do their homework. It’s no longer negotiable.

Their homework is to plank every day. Yup. Every day!  Because in a few weeks, we will be having a planking competition. And let me tell you that my grandmas are already outperforming my young girls! 💪🏼 If you want to try it yourself, swipe the photo so you can see the planking schedule. What do you say? Are you ready to get stronger?
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Photo credit: @parisandalatte
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How are YOU feeling today?  Let me tell you a quick story.  A few years ago a very nice lady complimented me and I immediately pointed to the big zit I had between my eyes!  I didn’t feel beautiful.  I was always looking for ways to hide my acne and when someone said something along the lines of “you’re so pretty” I would just point to my flaws.  But then this happened and it was incredibly sobering and hit me like a punch in the stomach.

She said “why can’t women just accept the compliments and accept themselves without pointing to their flaws?” I felt stupid and to this day I will never forget it because she was right.  I was used to brushing off compliments about my parenting, my looks, my teaching style, my body.  I just wasn’t happy about any of it.

Maybe this is you now or maybe like me, you were able to overcome it.  I don’t know when I stopped liking myself and I don’t know how it started.  But I have a decent idea of why.

We are always surrounded by people and when we feel that we don’t measure up we begin to feel crappy about ourselves.  It’s not a nice feeling.  But as with anything else, we learn, we grow, we embrace what makes us unique.

Thankfully I listened to my mentors and I did a lot of personal development and I arrived at the conclusion that I do have lots to offer.  I am hot as heck and I can plank, dance and mom-boss like it’s going out style!  And I love empowering other women to live their best life.

Ladies, we are one hot, collective powerhouse.  Embracing what makes us amazing is far beyond skin deep.  It starts with what we think of ourselves and the things we say to ourselves and inevitably, we begin to love ourselves.

Whether you agree with me or not, you are God’s perfect creation because He doesn’t make mistakes.  Love yourself.  You are beautiful and you bring so much love, compassion, strength and wonder to this world so never compare yourself unless you are comparing yourself to the person you were yesterday.
Don’t let disappointments get to you. Take them as learning opportunities to get better.

When you run a business and put your product or service or offer out there and no one bites, it’s discouraging. But when this happens to me I have learned to not stay in that negative space.

Instead, I ask for help or figure out a different way to get from point A to point B because this path that we are on is a journey lined with bumps along the way.

Don’t avoid the bumps or you’ll end up off the path and you’re on this path for a reason!

If we give up at the first sign of distress, we won’t celebrate our victories. So if you’re currently feeling like everyone else has it together and are succeeding and crushing it, be patient. Be disciplined. Believe in your beautiful, talented self.

Don’t compare yourself. You will get there and when you do, we will celebrate together ❤️
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Photo credit: @lisaengers (thank you)
Yesterday I was asked about finding balance between building a business and having a family. This might sound really selfish but it’s not and it’s the advice I was given so I have been passing it on ever since:  take time for yourself!

You can’t give anything when you are running on empty.

Taking time for yourself means that you value yourself and that you want to perform as best as you can. In order to do that you have to take time to rest, to recharge, to do the things that fill your soul so that you come back rejuvenated.

In order to do this effectively you have to learn to manage your time better. I was horrible at it so I was always frustrated and frazzled and moody. I had to take a hard look at the way I was doing things and began making changes.

Getting organized will help you pencil in those times when you can either take a yoga class or just go to the park by yourself to read or meditate. Or maybe you just send everyone out of the house so you can nap. You need this, girlfriend!

So promise me you’ll look at ways to take care of Number One because you’re the pillar of your household and if you’re not strong and mentally healthy, the structure will crumble. I know it sounds drastic but I bet some of you will relate. ❤️
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Fresh off a FB live where I shared my motherhood story.  Life has a way of surprising you and many times, things just don’t go as planned.

Parenting is beautiful but of course, it’s not without its own set of challenges.  However, I’m truly blessed as many of you are, to be able to watch my babies fight sometimes, because we have to be thankful for every aspect of motherhood.  The discipline, the rewards, the sleepless nights and the endless kisses on boo-boos and sweet snuggles.

Finding balance as a #momboss can be extremely challenging. If you find yourself getting frustrated, just drop everything and go pour yourself a glass of wine!  Just kidding!!! Seriously, it’s totally normal to be frustrated and frazzled and tired and even angry sometimes.  It’s all part of the journey.

I still go through some of those feelings but ever since I learned to focus a bit more and work smarter, not harder, I feel I can breathe easier.  There was a time when I couldn’t turn my brain off.  Now I’m more relaxed and when I sit with them, I am totally present.

When you are more intentional with everything that you do, things go a lot easier.  Do you ever find yourself wishing for more balance?  Let’s talk because it takes someone who understand and who has been there to help you feel a little better.  Keep hustling but don’t forget about what’s truly important.  And always remember that you are a warrior!
All that girl and mom bossing can take a toll!  Are you taking care of your health?  This goes beyond exercising!

Mental Health:  Be mindful of your triggers.  If you learn to recognize what sets you off or what makes you sad or frustrated or feel inadequate, nip it!  For many of us women some of it can be comparison.  We compare ourselves to others who are more successful, thinner, happier (at least on social media!) and tend to be overworked and over tired.  Take time out to take care of your mind!  Need ways to do this?  DM me

Physical Health:  Exercise!  Whether you can do a little or a lot, just do it.  Go for a walk if you don’t have too much time or find a great full body circuit that you can do from home.  Gone are the times when we say “I don’t have time”. Make the time my love!  If you need a little inspiration, DM me.  I have some simple stuff for you!

Your Eating Habits:  You are what you eat so do you want to be a walking potato chip or loaded burger?  The food we eat will either fuel us and make us feel great or fill us up and make us feel sluggish.  I know change can be tough but there are ways that you can begin to upgrade your eating habits by making one simple change at a time.  All you need is the desire to change.  I can show you how.  DM me!

I hope these tips help you see that it’s not all about building the empire or working super hard. You need take care of yourself so that you can enjoy the fruits of your labor and share with those you love.
Repeat with me “It’s up to me.” It’s Monday and while many people dread the start of a work week, there are others who can’t wait for Monday morning to come along.

These are the dreamers and doers and weavers of their own success. For us, it’s not just about the hustle. It’s about loving our hustle and knowing that we are building something meaningful even though we sometimes end up working harder and sleep less.

But if you’re finding yourself in a tough spot and feeling stuck: you have a ton of options! The world is your oyster. All you have to do is decide and be ready for more. You have to be willing to take risks and you have to find a mentor. There are many but I can also help you.

Let this be the year when you change everything!
Take me back: #PuertoRico Sun, beach, amazing food and so much more.

What’s your favorite vacation spot?  Make sure you put that vacation on your calendar!

This year the family and I will be visiting #CostaRica for the first time and I can’t wait experience another Central American country. I love to travel and I plan to do more of this year. How about you?
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Photo credit: @lisaengers aka my Puerto Rican Queen.
Sunday! How are you doing?  Today I did something I’ve been wanting to do for a long time but never knew how to start.

One of the beautiful ladies from my church set up a vision board event and I jumped right in. What was most interesting to me was cutting out the words.

There’s a lot that I couldn’t fit but the words that caught my attention were all about serving others and being a great coach. That’s one of my goals for 2019; to show up for myself but also for those who need a little more help.

I mixed in a few written words and Bible citations to remind me of what’s really important. What’s on your vision board? I’m really looking forward to doing this again.
My latest project comes from a special place in my heart.  There are so many women who want more out of life and who would love to start their own online business but have no idea where to start.

This is for YOU.  If you want an easy-to-read guide to help you right now, go ahead and download it.  I am doing this as a free resource and this free resource comes with tons of value so I really hope you'll take advantage because we all have to start somewhere. Let me help you avoid the mistakes I've made.

Pass it along to anyone who is looking to make their mark on social media.  Just tag someone, hit  the "share" button or send in DM.  You don't have to do what I do but please do something.

Ladies, we are #madeformore and we ARE making our online presence known.  This is the best time to start a business!  This is my latest labor of love and it's all yours.  Download your guide here: www.BossBabeGuide.com or tap link in IG bio.
I did something almost 3 years ago that changed everything!  Up until then, I was tired of feeling tired.  I was in so much pain all the time and completely unmotivated and super low on energy.  I thought I was doing everything right but I wasn’t.

I began bettering my eating habits even more.  I added concentrated fruit and veggie capsules every single day and vegan Omega blend.  The result: inflammation decreased.  Acne decreased.  My body was finally able to absorb the nutrients I was feeding it. No more reaching for the energy drinks.  No more insomnia.  No more feeling like crap.

I feel like God gave me a new life and a healthier body.  Now I’m on a mission to help others break free from diet traps and get back to health because in the end, if we don’t have our health, we can’t fully enjoy life.

I’m thankful I can be there for my kids and have the energy to teach my classes and help women build a business.  Yes, this wasn’t only transformational for my health but it it also helped me build something solid on the side and one day, it will give me the peace of mind and freedom I want.

This dish is one of my go-to-favorites. Roasted veggies with a nice big piece of avocado.  I love eating well and I love helping others do the same.  If you need guidance, please reach out!  A healthy body is a strong body!
We are the CEOs of our lives!

Fresh off an amazing panel of female warriors and entrepreneurs.  Thank you for hosting this amazing event, @maggylondon  #maggymingle

My biggest takeaway of the night was adding more fire to this flame! My passion and desire is to continue helping women live their best life no matter how much resistance I encounter from myself or even from them.

The truth is that so many women feel stuck in their corporate jobs because that could be the only security that they have. However, there is always a way to build a bigger and better dream while working that 9-to-5.

If this is you, we need to talk because I have some great ideas for you but building your dream still requires tenacity, consistency and most of all, the right coach.

No matter what, know that you are not alone. And know that you were #madeformore

We all need a strong woman backing us up and I’m thankful for my gorgeous friend, @parisandalatte so be sure to follow her to see how she’s crushing it as a busy wife, mom, fashion blogger, content creator and so much more!

The woman of today wears many hats.  There’s never been a better time to be a woman!