Richella Parham

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Blogger, Vice Chair, Renovare US. Currently writing Mythical Me: Finding Freedom from Constant Comparison for InterVarsity Press.

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Autumn comes late to North Carolina. But when it finally gets here, watch out! Round here, I’ll say “I’m glad I live in a world where there are Novembers.” What’s it like in your neck of the woods?
My weekend was complicated, and some of it was a pain, but any time I get to hang out with my “baby” boy is good. I guess I shouldn’t have sprinkled his food with Miracle-Gro, huh? #itssimplytuesday
“Your mountain is waiting, so get on your way.”
Jack and I were supposed to be unpacking this suitcase in London today. But Hurricane Michael made its way through North Carolina yesterday, and our flight was canceled. There were no other flights available, and we had to cancel our much-anticipated trip. I am so sad about this. .

I’ve been tempted to downplay my feelings of disappointment by comparing my loss to the devastating losses that hurricane victims in Florida are facing. But while it’s right for me to feel bad about their losses and to help them however I can, it does no good to compare. This is something I’ve learned from writing a book on comparison: we sometimes use comparison as a way to manage our feelings. .

Far better, I believe, simply to admit our feelings to God and ask for His help in dealing with them rather than to minimize them by comparing our situations to those of other people. I believe and trust that God is able to comfort us when we’re hurting, to give us perspective on whatever we’re facing, and to give us compassion for our neighbors. That’s so much better than dealing with feelings by saying “I can’t be sad because someone else is more sad.” The back door of comparison is not the way to contentment.
Need a little escape from your day, a tiny bit of peace? Here’s a little piece of the Blue Ridge Mountains for you.
Even if it’s still warm enough to wear shorts, it sure is fun to go on a hike on a pretty Autumn day!
The Autumnal Equinox is upon us. Even if the temperature isn’t cooperating, I’ve decided it’s time for Fall. Who’s with me?
Finally, after days of rain, this is the view from my front porch. Durham had some flooding but nothing nearly so major as our neighbors in eastern North Carolina. Still, it’s been dicey enough to make us extra grateful to see this sign of God’s promise.
So this is the scene all over my hometown today. We are bracing for the unwelcome arrival of Hurricane Florence. What’s happening in your neck of the woods?
Okay, age 55. Let’s do this!
Best of the best: having all my guys with me in the mountains!
Hard to beat a sunset over the Blue Ridge Mountains.