Kate Spears

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I've got a few scraggly looking plants in my living room. And today I was thinking about whether they could be nursed back to any state of health or if I should just toss them and replace with new ones. And I realized this is basically the question I must ask in every situation. Deep thoughts with plants ya'll. 🌱🌱🌱
“I think that the most important thing a woman can have- next to talent, of course- is her hairdresser.” ― Joan Crawford

#quotes #hairstyles #hair
Loss is a river that flows inside you, making its way as only water can, with unrelenting pressure that keeps it always moving on its journey. When a barrier presents itself, the river creates new paths and channels that weren't there before.

To live with loss is to learn how to navigate these waters.

Sometimes you sit quietly by the river's banks and lose yourself in thoughts of something altogether lovely, even while the pain it carries keeps rushing past. You hear the sound of the water and maybe even feel a splash or two on your arms and face, but remain at a distance.

Then there are times when the water calls to you. So you kick off your shoes and peel off your socks, leaving them in a heap in the grass while you step carefully into the shallows. The cold sensation feels invigorating for a moment, but the sharp rocks hiding in the murky riverbed bruise your tender feet.

Other times, the sheer force of the loss you feel causes the river to burst from its banks and spread over the adjacent land or floodplain.

No stranger to this occurrence, the floodplain is low lying ground which exists solely for this purpose...waiting to catch the flood and the debris it carries with it.

Floodplains are not made of just one material, but instead all kinds of different things that have been carried from where they began, which is often an indeterminable source, and deposited after having traveled a long journey.

The loss we feel doesn't play by any rules, especially not social constructs of time and space. The river can be millions upon millions of years old and travel hundreds of miles. And it can carve out a gorge right through your very being that rivals the Grand Canyon.

But life finds a way to go on. And the river flows. Sometimes it's a mighty rushing force. Other times just a trickle across a dry and dusty riverbed.
Reposted from @words_of_women -  Are you prone to doing multiple things at one? Are you skimming instead of reading? Are you watching TV while also texting? Buddhists speak of monkey mind, a mind that is unsettled and out of control. This is your mind when you multitask. A constantly confused and restless mind-set is a natural by-product of multitasking. According to Devora Zack, a consultant and practitioner of neurolinguistic programming, Multitasking is symptomatic of larger societal problems, including alienation, the devaluation of human experience and meaningless relationships. 
According to Devora, The sense of satisfaction some people feel after multitasking stems from small releases of dopamine as each task ends. Such positive chemical rewards are addictive, and that’s why multitasking often distracts from real goals that require longer waits. Layered work increases cortisol, which is linked to stress and exhaustion. Multitasking’s demands reduce your ability to empathize and connect with others by diminishing your brain density in those areas. Being brusque with your family and colleagues becomes easier. 
Multitasking has no positive effects. “The inability to concentrate on another person when being introduced or holding a conversation is evidence of an undisciplined cerebellum.” Instead, practice focusing on one task, one person, one situation at a time. According to Devora, “By immersing yourself in one task at a time, one moment at a time, you’ll accomplish more while enjoying deeper, stronger relationships.” - #regrann
Whimsy, like butter, should be applied liberally. When my husband fixes me a piece of toast, I always want to make sure there's enough butter. He skimps on the weekdays (for supposed health related reasons) but on Saturdays, Katie bar the door. He brings Saturday level butter like a champ. That's how much whimsy we need to get through life. A Saturday level butter portion, spread on thick and edge to edge. Mary Oliver gets it.

#quotes #quotestoliveby #whimsy #MaryOliver #words #LifeLessons #birdsofinstagram
Reposted from @charliemackesy -  Weakest or darkest. Either really. - #regrann
Not where I want to be, but definitely not where I was either. Honor the tiny but difficult changes you are making each day on the journey toward your truest self. 
Reposted from @hillergoodspeed -  2018 - #regrann
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Reposted from @hallmark -  Hello, January! Tag a #JanuaryBaby to wish them a happy birthday month! #JanuaryBirthdays #JanuaryBabies - #regrann
In the vastness of the universe and the moments of our lives, we love to create these little experiences in chunks. It's so very human of us, isn't it? A day, a week, a month or a year. What it should mean or what we should accomplish. And when the new year rolls around, it's supposed to be this great opportunity for changing. But great opportunity also brings great pressure...at least for me. How about you?

This is for all the ones who woke up today under a cloud of hopefulness mixed with a healthy dose of bootstrap efforts. For those who were so wanting a new start. And isn't that all of us?

But after taking inventory, you come to find out that you look exactly the same. And you feel the same too (maybe worse). And the same dramatic tragedies and woes you fretted about yesterday are there too. The people who disappointed you and the ones you disappointed. The questions you have no answers to. The finances, the health diagnoses, the state of your career. Your parents' rejection of you or their approval based purely on your achievements. The awkward and difficult situations. The fractured relationships. All the stuff that was there as you rang in the chime of midnight is still there today.

Yesterday was unusually warm in Knoxville. I put my hair in a ponytail and turned up some 90s music and drove down Middlebrook Pike with the windows down. And I thought about what it might feel like to be carefree. And for about five minutes, I was. It was pretty awesome.

I want more of that.

But change takes time. The big reveal might happen in a matter of seconds, but the transformation before it may take a lifetime.

And I'm definitely not poo pooing your resolutions. In fact, I'm cheering you on with gusto. WITH GUSTO.

I just know that the change I need is less about the moments being different and more about me being OK with the moments just as they are.
When I see celebrities posting about their best friends, I'm sometimes tempted to say #friendgoals but this is actually not quite accurate. The friends I have made in my life have far exceeded any and all goals I might have had. They are my cheerleaders, my confidantes, the ones I can count on and the ones who know me best. In the friendship arena, I have won. But the area where I feel like a big loser and the thing that makes me feel so jealous of celebrities, for example @ashleygraham & @queen_rara is the time they get to spend together and the adventures they have. I have let the tasks of daily life expand to fill all the crevices. I have allowed myself to cash in all of my energy for things that 'must' be accomplished, leaving little or no energy for quality time (in person or otherwise) with those folks who mean the most to me. This is truly giving me a reason to pause on this gray Sunday morning. What is the point of all this? I want my experience to be different. For the past year or so I have been searching for a deeper understanding of myself and why I do certain things that aren't so good for me. Not making quality time with friends a priority is one of these things. So maybe this is my resolution. It seems pretty simple but maybe that's the way it should be. Reposted from @queen_rara -  Around the world and back, through thick & thin #thatsmybestfriend @ashleygraham - #regrann
When you're a refined dignified lady but you also need a beard trim. 💇‍♀️💇‍♀️💇‍♀️